Becoming a mom changes you. I used to hear this all the time and, frankly, it scared me. I worried that I would lose the parts of my that I loved. The things I enjoyed would be stripped from me. I wouldn't be able to do "cool" things. Life would change and I'd be stuck at home on a Saturday night. I was worried about venturing down the road to parenthood.
Two years in to this gig and I have to say that I love it. Yes, my life changed. It changed for the better. I don't care that some of my friends are out at bars, clubs, fancy restaurants on Saturday night. Frankly, none of that even interests me these days. I didn't lose the parts of me that I loved. I am still me. I still get to do the things that make me happy. I have a new joy in my life. My son. I love seeing him happy. I love doing things with him so that he learns about the world around him. Do you know what the most exciting part of my day was on Saturday? My son said "What do I hear?" when a neighbor was mowing his lawn. That may not seem like a big deal, but two year olds are supposed to START saying two-word sentences around this time. He said a FOUR-word, complete, sentence! It was awesome. To people without kids, this probably sounds lame. I can honestly tell you, that as a parent these moments are amazing. If you're not a parent yet, you'll get it one day, I promise!
The mommy wars are real unfortunately. It seems like everyone wants to be that perfect mom. Perfect doesn't actually exist. Everyone's perception is different. What is my definition of the "perfect mom?" It is someone who works tirelessly to do what is best for her kid(s). It's someone who admits that she was wrong about what she used to think about parenthood and laughs about it with her friends. It's a mommy who is always learning and doing better. That is the perfect mom, no matter what path they take with their child, as long as they are working in the best interest of their child, in their particular situation. Oh and guess what, sometimes that "perfect mom" is really a dad! I know I had certain ideas about being a mom and they have changed dramatically over the last two years. Experience makes you wiser. You change your mind on a lot of things as you mature and jump head first into this crazy thing called parenthood!
Here is a State Farm commercial that reminds me of this whole topic as well. No I was not paid to put this up, it just reminds me of this post I saw the other day...